Its RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS DAY 17th February 2025
Its been a while since I've posted something and today seems somewhat fitting to talk about kindness and compassion, especially when it comes to yourself.
The past year for me has been a journey. Early part of 2024 I commenced my training to be a Trauma Recovery Coach, there was heaps to learn, I was still working full time and delivering on other commitments too. There were lots of plates that I was juggling in the air but it was all good, busy is where I thrive. But I recognised I wasn't superwoman and that something needed to give and for the time being it would be promoting myself and business for the time being. I successfully completed my certifications and was good to go, I was ready to start helping people and working with clients that had experienced trauma or life challenges.
Unfortunately not everything goes to plan, just as I was ready to get coaching again, my website was ready to go live, at the back end of last year, I became ill. I can not tell you how slow the recovery journey has been and continues to be, especially as I still don't have a diagnosis at this point. The level of frustration has been unreal and for those of you that know me personally know that I don't do ill, I like to keep going. There have been moments that made me check in with myself to see where I was at and at times I needed to dig a little deep but overall, I have kept a positive outlook. This process has taught me lots about myself, here's what I have done and continue to do to be kind to myself and show myself compassion, both have helped me navigate through this process:
💕 Its ok not to be ok (que Jelly Roll - I'm not okay! I love this dude, honestly, especially his duet with Kelly Clarkson on this song - check it out, its too good!), its ok to feel the parts of myself that are pissed off, frustrated and even scared about what is happening, especially as things are unknown
💕 Talk about how I'm feeling and be honest, really honest. If you feel you need a hug, tell someone so you can have a squeeze, even if it virtually.
💕 On the days where I just don't want to face the day, that's ok. I'm being kind to myself and reassuring self that this is just a shitty moment in time and it won't be like this forever
💕 Remember that progress is always progress no matter how small the steps are. Its helpful to reflect back on my journey so far
💕 Positive affirmations; they REALLY do help with a positive mindset, positive outlook and help to rewire positive neuropathic pathways. I listen before bed as I'm going off to sleep as my subconscious brain is far more likely to accept what is being said rather than my conscious brain that might challenge statements - such a great hack right there and yes it works!
💕 Be as active as I can, try and go out for walks daily to be in the fresh air or be in nature, this is naturally so healing. Don't get me wrong there are days where I can't be arsed but that is ok, right! We make sure we get it tomorrow.
💕 Regularly do yoga workouts. Yoga is really great for keeping the nervous system calm, regulating movement with breath and keeping in the present moment. I am back to full on beginner workouts as I have lost so much strength and muscle tone but that's ok, my strength and tone will come back, it will, muscle memory will soon start to kick in.
💕 Be accepting of where I am at today, in the here and now. Be kind to the mind, always. This is non negotiable, be kind to yourself, even on the shitty days.
💕 SURRENDER! Yes that's right, surrender to what is. Fortunately, I figured this our early on but surrendering to it, all of it. The moment that I did this was so freeing, physically and mentally. When you have little to no control over an outcome, it can be tough but when you choose to let go and accept that some things you just can't control can actually be quite liberating and healing. Whilst surrendering to what I can't control, it gives grace to be able to then focus on what you can control, I go to one of my favourite expressions, control the controllables! This right here is probably the biggest, most simple and obvious thing to do but also one of the hardest.
By delivering the same kindness and compassion that you would to someone else as you would yourself at first can be tricky but when you practice this regularly it becomes easier, it does honestly. There are so many ways that you can deliver kindness and self compassion to yourself, these are just a few examples that I have touched on that have worked for me.
I would love to hear what you do to be kind to yourself and how you deliver self compassion in life's tricky moments.
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